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Returning, but different this time? (OOC) Help me please.
Hello folks.
I've been playing on and off for about 20 years. I've generally annoyed most of the population over that time by not sticking with any faction, quitting cities/guilds/houses randomly (usually when returning to the game), and, sadly, not making any relationships with folks in the game.
I was playing it like a solo RPG game. I had bad social anxiety and fear of rejection issue baggage. That's mostly all under control.
So, instead of buying all the artifacts and playing every class, I'd like to rejoin the game fresh and make interpersonal relationships a big part of, if not the primary, why I play the game.
Can you please offer advice?
I realize the interpersonal relationship focus is probably keyed on a few things:
I don't know many things, but I know that RP is helped by conflict. A character needs defining big moments in life and a cause to rally behind as part of who they are (even if it is a silly cause, in the end, it is real to the character).
I know folks owe me nothing to help them as I've been a serial flip-flopper for over two decades, but I personally feel like I could use these interactions and immersion into the game that I've barely scratched the surface.
-Kzir (also Drauka, of old, and some other failed alts and retired folks [have three retired toons, so much money])
PS: I love Mhaldor and all its flair, but have some difficulty with the RP maggot thing and not being able to converse with folks. It hampers my primary goals here of socializing [in-game] and interpersonal relationships.
PSS: I'm not opposed to retiring Kzir again to get a fresh start (but would prefer not to). Kzir is a rogue Serpent, but I don't care about any specific class/city/guild/house; that's all secondary. I want to participate in a communally shared story and hopefully make some new friends who value that, too.
I've been playing on and off for about 20 years. I've generally annoyed most of the population over that time by not sticking with any faction, quitting cities/guilds/houses randomly (usually when returning to the game), and, sadly, not making any relationships with folks in the game.
I was playing it like a solo RPG game. I had bad social anxiety and fear of rejection issue baggage. That's mostly all under control.
So, instead of buying all the artifacts and playing every class, I'd like to rejoin the game fresh and make interpersonal relationships a big part of, if not the primary, why I play the game.
Can you please offer advice?
I realize the interpersonal relationship focus is probably keyed on a few things:
- sticking with a city/guild/house for the long term (shared activities of combat, helping and learning from others, and day-to-day comms)
- focus more on immersing myself into the world and lore itself instead of abilities and levels.
- roleplay, but roleplay with others in their environment. breaking that also breaks their immersion.
- not care about the loss of levels (level 90 now)
I don't know many things, but I know that RP is helped by conflict. A character needs defining big moments in life and a cause to rally behind as part of who they are (even if it is a silly cause, in the end, it is real to the character).
I know folks owe me nothing to help them as I've been a serial flip-flopper for over two decades, but I personally feel like I could use these interactions and immersion into the game that I've barely scratched the surface.
-Kzir (also Drauka, of old, and some other failed alts and retired folks [have three retired toons, so much money])
PS: I love Mhaldor and all its flair, but have some difficulty with the RP maggot thing and not being able to converse with folks. It hampers my primary goals here of socializing [in-game] and interpersonal relationships.
PSS: I'm not opposed to retiring Kzir again to get a fresh start (but would prefer not to). Kzir is a rogue Serpent, but I don't care about any specific class/city/guild/house; that's all secondary. I want to participate in a communally shared story and hopefully make some new friends who value that, too.
Kzir
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Re: Player Pics
Slightly terrified because I remember playing with 26 year olds when I was 16.. Except now I'm the 26 year old. (Far right for those who haven't met me).
Verdell
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Re: Mental Illness in Achaea
Pajak said:What I'm doing right now is an example, if it weren't for these kinds of games my social skills would be awful.
To me, Achaea is the best free social skills lessons I can get. I was ready to move on and do this in an IRL environment, but that ended with legislation passed in the wake of Covid. I am no longer eligible for the program I was going to use.
Meh, just as well in ways.
People have said that's not what Achaea is for. This is valid - but then, even as a player I would use Great Hunts to explore areas where normally I'd die to aggressive denizens; that was not the intended use of a Great Hunt event. Just because a thing is not that primary goal doesn't mean it's not a valid use of the situation. Achaea is not "for" people to do other stuff either, but as long as that stuff isn't harmful like griefing or cheating, nobody really minds. Achaea is not "for" some people to be jerks - but that won't stop the jerks from being jerks. It will hopefully limit it a bit. If my sort of behaviour is the biggest problem in Achaea, and I hope it's not a problem at all, then that's one thing. I do not intend to harm fellow players. I am very VERY imperfect as a person. I do not play in order to cause trouble (but yes, I have to acknowledge that I can and sometimes do cause trouble). There's a player I want to talk to ICly about a mistake I feel I keep making, because I'm pretty sure I'm doing something wrong.
I'm glad I'm not the only one! Thank you for this line of yours I'm quoting, @Pajak!!
Boosteya
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Re: Art Commissions
We dangle @Minifie in front of all the new slaves as a possible reward.
What they don't know is that she actually just kills them.
Iaxus
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Re: Art Commissions
Unless something changed, it shouldn't be. There might be a rule against advertising it on forums, but requesting an art commission on a self conceptualized character that might also exist in Achaea's realm shouldn't violate the ToS.Austere said:Pretty sure this is against ToS.Yae said:RL monies.
Taryius
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Re: Mental Illness in Achaea
Greetings,
I am picking up this thread, as it has been posted ages ago.
And please, yes, I am picking it up with all respect to different thoughts, different lifestyles and different decisions made at different times. Also please note: By picking this up there, is no offend ment at any time. If at all perhaps allowing a reconsideration.
I was wondering if this theme had ever changed at any time?
It really copes with true nature. One is given life by divine grace and one is loved no matter how one was born.
The realms are full of such loving details. One should keep looking.
With all my love, as well as truely deepest respect,
jellie
I am picking up this thread, as it has been posted ages ago.
And please, yes, I am picking it up with all respect to different thoughts, different lifestyles and different decisions made at different times. Also please note: By picking this up there, is no offend ment at any time. If at all perhaps allowing a reconsideration.
I was wondering if this theme had ever changed at any time?
It really copes with true nature. One is given life by divine grace and one is loved no matter how one was born.
The realms are full of such loving details. One should keep looking.
With all my love, as well as truely deepest respect,
jellie
Jellie
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Re: What Happened To You Today?
Soles said:Getting called Great Uncle by the lovely Enalya
Great U- Well what the crap man aint nobody tracking down Uncle Rack. This is horseshit.
Rackham
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Re: What Happened To You Today?
Is there....ANOTHER great uncle out there. BRING HIM ON!Rackham said:Soles said:Getting called Great Uncle by the lovely Enalya
Great U- Well what the crap man aint nobody tracking down Uncle Rack. This is horseshit.
Enalya
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